As I was looking for something to write about this month, I came across some sentiments written by some folks over the years and I thought maybe I should share them with you.  Some of them are close to the heart; others a little humorous.  I found a favorite in the midst of this collection; maybe you will find yours too:

 

My idea of Christmas, whether old-fashioned or modern, is very simple: loving others. Bob Hope

Gifts of time and love are surely the basic ingredients of a truly merry Christmas.  Peg Bracken

Christmas is a season for kindling the fire for hospitality in the hall, the genial flame of charity in the heart.  Washington Irving

Peace on earth will come to stay, when we live Christmas every day.  Helen Steiner Rice

Christmas, my child, is love in action. Dale Evans

Christmas is the day that holds all time together.  Alexander Smith

The best of all gifts around any Christmas tree: the presence of a happy family all wrapped up in each other.  Burton Hills

Who can add to Christmas?  The perfect motive is that God so loved the world.  The perfect gift is that He gave His only Son.  The only requirement is to believe in Him.  The reward of faith is that you shall have everlasting life. Corrie Ten Boom

The Son of God became man to enable men to become the sons of God.  CS Lewis

All the Christmas presents in the world are worth nothing without the presence of Christ.  David Jeremiah

The great challenge left to us is to cut through all the glitz and glam of the season that has grown increasingly secular and commercial, and be reminded of the beauty of the One who is Christmas.  Bill Crowder 

May we not ‘spend’ Christmas or ‘observe’ Christmas, but rather ‘keep’ it.  Peter Marshall

The hinge of history is on the door of a Bethlehem stable.  Ralph W. Sockman

I wish we could put up some of the Christmas spirit in jars and open a jar of it every month. Harlan Miller

Christmas waves a magic wand over this world, and behold, everything is softer and more beautiful. Norman Vincent Peale

This is the message of Christmas: We are never alone.  Taylor Caldwell

Christmas is doing a little something extra for someone.  Charles Schulz

And the Grinch, with his Grinch-feet ice cold in the snow, stood puzzling and puzzling, how could it be so? It came without ribbons. It came without tags. It came without packages, boxes or bags. And he puzzled and puzzled ’till his puzzler was sore. Then the Grinch thought of something he hadn’t before. What if Christmas, he thought, doesn’t come from a store? What if Christmas, perhaps, means a little bit more?   Dr. Seuss from “How the Grinch Stole Christmas”

It is good to be children sometimes, and never better than at Christmas when its mighty Founder was a child Himself.   Charles Dickens

And, this comparison:

Why Jesus is better than Santa Claus

Santa lives at the North Pole …
JESUS is everywhere.

Santa rides in a sleigh …
JESUS rides on the wind and walks on the water.

Santa comes but once a year …
JESUS is an ever present help.

Santa fills your stockings with goodies …
JESUS supplies all your needs.

Santa comes down your chimney uninvited …
JESUS stands at your door and knocks, and then enters your heart when invited.

You have to wait in line to see Santa …
JESUS is as close as the mention of His name.

Santa lets you sit on his lap …
JESUS lets you rest in His arms.

Santa doesn’t know your name, all he can say is
“Hi little boy or girl, what’s your name?” …
JESUS knew our name before we were born…
Not only does He know our name, He knows our address too.
He knows our history & future and He even knows how many hairs are on our heads.

Santa has a belly like a bowl full of jelly …
JESUS has a heart full of love.

All Santa can offer is HO HO HO
JESUS offers health, help and hope.

Santa says “You better not cry” …
JESUS says “Cast all your cares on me for I care for you.”

Santa’s little helpers make toys …
JESUS makes new life, mends wounded hearts, repairs broken homes and builds mansions.

Santa may make you chuckle but …
JESUS gives you joy that is your strength.

While Santa puts gifts under your tree …
JESUS became our gift and died on a tree….the cross.

 


 

‘Thank you for your ministry.  I have a great joy passing the cross out to people at the Dallas Kidney Transplant Center and everywhere I go.  These crosses are a ministry to people in this world to let them know Christ Jesus died for them on that cross. Thanks for your ministry.  Love you Brothers and Sisters in Christ.’   Keith – TX

 


 

 

 

 

And, we thank these CTW family members for sharing the cross and showing others God’s love:

 

 

Mary – MN
Bob – MN
Mignonette – MN
Hilltop Chapel – Palisade, MN
Presbyterian Home Services – Mpls, MN
Bay Area Vineyard Church – Silver Bay, MN
St. Francis Hospital Pastoral Care – Tulsa, OK
Morningside Baptist Church – Healy, AK
Peniel Baptist Church – Bethany, OK
Carol – AZ
Cindy – TX
Dodie – MN
Wayne – AZ
Tiffany – MN
Don – MN
Brenda – ND
Keith – TX
Donna – PA

 


 

Irving Berlin, a Russian immigrant, was considered one of the greatest song writers in American history.  Just a few of his more popular songs are God Bless America, Easter Parade, There’s No Business Like Show Business, Puttin’ on the Ritz, and Play a Simply Melody.  But, he is probably best known for his composition of White Christmas, which he wrote in 1940.

Story goes that some of his buddies were complaining about how hot it was in California in December and they appealed to him to write a song that would ‘cool them down’ so he penned this song overnight.  Little did he know that the crooner Bing Crosby would send this simple song, reminiscing about an old-fashioned Christmas setting, to the top of the charts and it would become the world’s best selling single, with sales over 50 million copies worldwide!  Still considered one of the top Christmas tunes, here is Bing doing what he did best:

 


 
 

Christmas is not a time nor a season, but a state of mind. To cherish peace and goodwill, to be plenteous in mercy, is to have the real spirit of Christmas.  

Calvin Coolidge, 30th president of the United States

 

Wishing God’s blessing to you and those you treasure.

Merry Christmas from all of us at Cross The World!

 

 

 

‘Let us solemnly remember the sacrifices of all those who fought so valiantly, on the seas, in the air, and on foreign shores, to preserve our heritage of freedom, and let us reconsecrate ourselves to the task of promoting an enduring peace so that their efforts shall not have been in vain.’

– Dwight Eisenhower

 

Have you hugged a Veteran today?

WE LOVE THEM ALL!!

 


 

I promised you pictures of the fall gathering of ‘Ernie’s girls’ from Heartwood Senior Living and here they are!  We had a western/cowboy theme for this get together and everyone was given cowboy hats to wear.  As you can see in the photos, there was a real cowgirl (from Oklahoma) present so she is the only one who knew how to truly wear her kerchief and hat, pressed straight and low on her head.  But, regardless of how the hats were worn, everyone was a good sport and had a great time!


And, an ADDED blessing for us was a couple of visitors from the Presbyterian Homes & Services office located in Minneapolis (Presbyterian Homes owns/manages Heartwood Senior Living in conjunction with our local medical center).  They wanted to see what the residents enjoyed doing so tagged along on the outing.  I think they enjoyed it just as much as everyone and we hope to see them again when we get together for food and fun next spring!

Even our dog Lily joined in (well, she wasn’t such a good sport … she did it because Mom said so!)

We are so blessed by our Heartwood friends and enjoy their company so much!!! 

 


 

This has been a busy month for us!  Prayers of thanksgiving go out for the crosses shared by these folks during October:

Paul – PA

Pam – WA

Bonita – MN

Ely United Methodist Church – Ely, MN

Donna – PA

Don – MN

Shirley – NV

St. Louis Bertrand Catholic Church – Foreston, MN

Carol – AZ

Crossing Home – Minneapolis, MN

God’s Country Cooperative Parish – Newberry, MI

Beautiful Hope Baptist Church – Springdale, AR

Trinity Lutheran Church – Billings, MT

Prairie Hill Church – Shakopee, MN for Operation Christmas Child

Zed – MN

Brenda – OK

 


 

The Christmas shopping season is on us.  The stores are already advertising ‘Black Friday’ sales … yikes!!  Before we get ‘crushed’ by the rush of all the things we think we need to get done for family, friends, pastors, shut-ins, etc., let’s take a few minutes to thank Jesus for His blessings on us.  Let’s think about how good our life is with our Lord by our side; let’s think of His sacrifice for us and how our sins are washed away because of Him; let’s remember His birth, His life, and His grace.  Let’s take this time to be thankful.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Recently, Ernie and I took a little trip through northern Minnesota.  It was a short 2 day trip but enough for us to get away from the woodshop and our obligations to our dog, as well as to others.  It was a much needed break.

We stopped at a few waterfalls and river mouths pouring into Lake Superior, took a few photos of the waves crashing against the shoreline, saw the loaded ships waiting patiently in the Duluth harbor, visited a few ore mines.  We aren’t the typical tourist type people … we prefer to travel slow, winding back roads instead of the nicely paved thoroughfares that get you there fast.  It was pre-peak color season but the scenery was still breathtaking.

Of everything we saw in those two days, two things still stick so vividly today and I wanted to share them.  We chose to travel through Superior National Forest by Grand Marais, specifically on Sawbill Trail … a heavily tree canopied gravel road that climbs up and down as it snakes through the Sawtooth Mountains (that’s it in the photo).  As we drove along in the comfort of our warm van on that nicely maintained road, we talked about what it must have been like for the Natives or pioneers as they picked their way carefully and probably painfully, either by foot or on horseback, over the rough terrain.  The trees were close together and the rocks deposited by the glaciers jutted out everywhere.  It was hilly; brush was close together; their treks must have been exhausting with, sometimes, little headway made.  The trees were turning beautiful shades of orange, yellow and red and we wondered if they even noticed the beauty surrounding them at this time of year.  Or, were they so busy gathering food and wood to get them through the impending winter, they couldn’t see God’s handiwork?  What their life must have been.  Again, from the comfort of the van, I thought it would be a great opportunity to experience that lifestyle … for an hour or two.  The thought made me appreciate modern technology.

Our favorite part on the Sawbill Trail was Heartbreak Ridge.  Not named for spooning couples who decided to call it quits and leap off the ledge at that spot (which is what everyone obviously thinks), Heartbreak Ridge is the section of the road where the grade is very long and relatively steep, with 90 degree turns and twists.  In the winter, loggers were no longer able to navigate this grade so all logging stopped until the spring thaw and THAT was the heartbreak.  Obviously, that time was before this area became a National Forest … GOOD FOR US!

The second precious memory of the trip was our stayover in Ely and we decided to have Vietnamese food for supper.  The people at the motel told us the restaurant was small; fortunately, they didn’t tell us it was mostly take out or we would have missed an awesome chance meeting.  The restaurant was small, with only 3 tiny tables, but the menu made up for it.  It was enormous  … with over 100 choices so, while we looked it over, we asked this man who was sitting by himself at a table if we could use a couple of his chairs.  He promptly invited us to share his table and our supper with him … what a blessing that turned out to be!!  As we ate and chatted, his eyes grew sad when he told us he was a widower and how much he missed his wife.  They had relocated from Milwaukee and had children in the area.  He talked about his military experience.  We told him a little about us … where we lived, what we did, our ministry … you know, all the normal stuff.  All the time, he kept his eye on the red pickup parked outside the door with 2 enormous (and I mean ENORMOUS) St. Bernards hanging out the window (well, as much of their bodies as the window had capacity for anyway).  This humorous sight did not allow one single person to pass by without these two getting a head pet, drooly chin rub or snag a photo opportunity … and we watched as this happened over and over and over!  He smiled as he said those two dogs were his and they ‘modeled’ for more photographic opportunities than anything else in the area, right from the passenger side of the truck!  Gentle love giants at 180# each, these ‘lap puppies’, as he referred to them, were his constant companions and we could see they filled his heart with joy. All too soon, our meal was over and our ways would part.  Before we said our good-byes, Ernie gave him one of our crosses and our new friend said something we have heard many times before:  ‘This is what it’s all about anyway, isn’t it?’  Yup!!

It was a GREAT TRIP!!!

 


 

Several folks have contacted us already for crosses they want to pack in the shoeboxes that will be sent to less fortunate kids across the world at Christmas time (Operation Christmas Child) and we are so happy to fill their requests!  If you, your church or your organization are thinking you would like to participate in the Operation Christmas Child project, click HERE for more information.

Or, if you have another worthy cause you are supporting and would like to receive crosses to present to the participants, please let us know as soon as you can so we can make sure you get the crosses in time.

Thanks!

 


 

And, from Paul in Beaver Falls, PA:

‘Most people thru out Beaver Falls, Ellwood City and others of the Beaver Valley in Pennsylvania have seen me sitting on the tailgate of my old truck handing out yard crosses (measuring about 12” x 18”).  The Yard Cross ministry is an outreach program and is affiliated with Riverview United Methodist Church in Patterson Township, Beaver Falls.

In late November, 2009, my wife and I embarked on a, what we thought, was going to be a one time thing.  We decided to make up about 50 yard crosses to hand out to our church family as a way of showing our faith to the public by displaying the crosses in front of our homes. 

As of August of this year, we have handed out 18,171 yard crosses.  We never expected that we would ever hand out that many crosses!  Our mission statement is “To supply as many yard crosses as needed, to be placed in front of an individual’s home or business, as a way of showing our love of Jesus Christ and our Christian values.”

We are happy to say that Cross The World is involved with Paul and his ministry and that our crosses are accompanying him as he travels around, sharing his love and handworks for the Lord.  He is a great disciple of Christ!  Thank you, Paul, for letting CTW be a part of your awesome ministry!!

 


 

Charles Stanley said:  ‘Our lives are about fulfilling the heavenly Father’s purpose.  Many people miss out on its goodness because they choose to follow personal preferences instead, believing their own choices are better.  Obedience is sometimes hard, but the struggle and sacrifice are worth it.  The Lord’s ways and principles lead believers to joy and peace.’

Lord, you will do everything you have planned for me.  Lord, your faithful love continues forever.
You have done so much for us.  Don’t stop now. 

Psalm 138: 8

We appreciate how our CTW family shows their love for others!!!  Thank you to the following who requested crosses to share last month.  We are ever so grateful.

Faith Community United Methodist Church – Rochester, PA

Faith Assembly – Imperial, CA

CUPS – Lafayette, LA

St. Francis Hospital Pastoral Care – Tulsa, OK

Dodie – MN

Helen – ND

Marian – MN

Don – MN

Immanuel Watson Parish – Boyd, MN

Jan for St. Matthews United Church of Christ – Forest City, MN 125th anniversary

Pam – PA

Pam – WA

Carla – MN

Frank – MI for Operation Christmas Child

 


 

 I loved autumn, the season of the year that God seemed to have put there just for the beauty of it. 

– Lee Maynard

 

 

 

This cloud appeared for a few fleeting seconds over our lake the other day when we were out for a boat ride.   It gently reminded us that God’s presence is truly everywhere; we only need to look for it.  What a comforting sight!!  He is such a great Father to us and we are so humbly thankful He has chosen to watch over us!

 

Relax in His presence!!

 


 

These family members blessed others with crosses during the month of August:

Carol – VA

Paul – PA

Hilltop Chapel – Palisade, MN

Don – MN

Lake Union Evangelical Covenant Church – South Haven, MN for Operation Christmas Child

Open Door Community Church – Breezy Point, MN

Holy Redeemer Holy Name Society – Ellwood City, PA

Deborah – NV

Mt. Zion Lutheran Church – Tucson, AZ

Trinity Lutheran Church – Detroit Lakes, MN

 


 

We are loved by a God who never makes mistakes.

Jessica Honegger

 


 

David Koblish is a soloist and recording artist from Minneapolis, MN and is considered one of the great favorites in sacred music. His beautiful and natural voice is heard in music that is Contemporary, Traditional, Inspirational, Country Western and Southern Gospel.

In 1973, he and his wife started their faith ministry, Under His Wings.  Since then, David has been singing full-time, performing at churches of all denominations, sizes and locations; Bible conferences; crusades; and evangelistic services.  Through his song, he shares God’s word and tells people about Christ’s redemption for them.  He’s musically ministered at conferences throughout Asia, South America, and Europe with the Billy Graham Evangelistic Association, sometimes singing songs in the native language.  Additionally, he’s had the privilege of recording with the Bill Gaither Vocal Group along with other national groups as well.

David’s mandate from his Savior is to take the gospel message to every corner of the earth.  This means EVERY corner, both big and small.

We heard him recently and were joyfully filled with the Holy Spirit through his music.  If you would like a singer/speaker for your church service, banquet, meeting, festival, or event of any kind, we would heartily recommend you consider booking David Koblish.  We guarantee his music will fill your heart and you will, in turn, rejoice in His goodness!

For more information about David’s ministry, Under His Wings, or to view his booking schedule, please click HERE.

 


 

May today there be peace within.

May you trust that you are exactly where you are meant to be.

May you not forget the infinite possibilities that are born of faith in yourself and others.

May you use the gifts that you have received, and pass on the love that has been given to you.

May you be content with yourself just the way you are.

Let this knowledge settle into your bones, and allow your soul the freedom to sing, dance, praise and love.

It is there for each and every one of us.

 

 

 

Recently, Ernie and I were able to share some crosses with Youth With A Mission (YWAM) folks visiting from West Virginia and learn a little bit about their program.  Simply put, YWAM is a worldwide interdenominational movement of young people with the common goal to know God and to make Him known.  Some of you may already be familiar with the program and recognize YWAM’s logo to the right.

For those of you (like us) who are just discovering this wonderful program, here’s some background information I found on their website for you.  In 1960, YWAM started working with young people in all parts of the world, training them to go out and help others to have a better understanding of who God is and inspiring them to further their relationship with Him (in the years to come, this program would reach out to thousands of youth, ages 9 – 90!).  The training comes through Discipleship Training Schools, a 5 month program (3 months classroom, 2 months outreach) where young people focus on mission work, cultivating their personal relationship with God and developing their personal character.  Additionally, they are encouraged to identify the unique individual gifts they possess and transform them into personal ministries they can share with others.  Some of these ministries include promoting creativity in music; sharing passion for outdoor activities such as hunting, archery, canoeing, or hiking; and hosting mission teams.

The folks we met from WV are very dedicated to serving the community in their area.  It was a joy to introduce them to Cross The World and welcome them to our family.  To read more about their personal mission in the West Virginia area, please click HERE.

 


 

 

Aaahhh, summer in Minnesota!!  Gotta love it!!!

 


 

‘Think of all the people you cross paths with each day.  You might be reflecting Jesus to some who have been blind to the truth of God.  Your oneness with the Lord makes you an asset to the body of Christ, too.  You have no idea how many lives might be touched by yours.’ – Charles Stanley

We thank the following for touching others with the cross during the month of July:

Birchwood Church – Soldotna, AK

Crossing Home – Mpls, MN

Hilltop Chapel – Palisade, MN

North Gate Vida Nueva – Onamia, MN

St. Francis Hospital Pastoral Care – Tulsa, OK

Central MN Faith Community, St. Cloud Hospital – St. Cloud, MN

Dodie – MN

Open Door Community Church – Breezy Point, MN for mission work through YWAM in West Virginia

Don – MN

St. Peters Church – New York Mills, MN

St. Paul Lutheran Church – Grafton, WI for a mission trip to Cambodia

Carol – PA

Providence Physical Therapy – Surf City, NC

 


 

We all have gifts.  They differ in keeping with the grace that God has given each of us.  Do you have the gift of prophecy?  Then use it in keeping with the faith you have.  Is it your gift to serve?  Then serve.  Is it teaching?  Then teach.  Is it telling others how they should live?  Then tell them.  Is it giving to those who are in need?  Then give freely.  Is it being a leader.  Then work hard at it.  Is it showing mercy?  Then do it cheerfully.

– Romans 12: 6-8

 

God Bless America!

America was founded by people who believe that God was their rock of safety.  I recognize we must be cautious in claiming that God is on our side, but I think it’s all right to keep asking if we’re on His side.

– Ronald Regan

 


 

In June, our crosses traveled with these folks.  We appreciate your sharing the love of God with others.

Trinity Lutheran Church – Fergus Falls, MN for Lamp mission trip to northern Canada

        Open Door Community Church – Breezy Point, MN

Paul – PA

The Center for Family Counseling – St. Cloud, MN

Grace Lutheran Church – Erskine, MN

Linda – MN preparing for Operation Christmas Child

                 Bill – MN

Arkansas Children’s Northwest – Springdale, AR

Don – MN

Candice – CA for the homeless ministry

Trinity Lutheran Church – Cedarburg, WI

Theresa – MN

Hilltop Chapel – Palisade, MN

 


 

This last week, Ernie and I hosted our early summer indoor picnic for the group of willing hands from Heartwood Senior Living in Crosby, MN who have helped us string crosses every month since we introduced them to Cross The World in January, 2015.   Click HERE to read the original story on them.

This is always a fun time for us and it’s a small way we can show our appreciation to them.   This year’s picnic was themed ‘Queen For a Day’ and everyone was provided with tiaras and corsages.  Usually, we picnic with about 12 women.  This time, we were blessed with a bonus … a gentleman came along who is new to the facility and it didn’t take long for him to fit right in with the group (although for some reason he didn’t want to wear his tiara!).  We look forward to seeing him on cross stringing day!


 


 

 

 

 

We LOVE this dedicated group of workers soooo much.  They are ABSOLUTELY AMAZING!  Each month, they string a little over 2500 crosses for us in an hour and we’re pretty sure they don’t realize they’re even working when they do it … all we hear is chatter and laughter!  It’s a grand time and we are oh so thankful that God put this awesome bunch in our lives!

Stay tuned … plans are already in the works for their fall get together!!

 


 

A couple weeks ago, Ernie and I had the opportunity to experience a double header … a musical double header, that is. And, the experience filled our souls with resounding joy that we’re still enjoying today!!

Saturday night, we attended a Polka worship service at a local Lutheran church. Accordians, drums and a tuba filled the sanctuary with lively polka music while the congregation sang familiar worship lyrics to the energetic toe-tappin’ pace … total fun!!! The sanctuary was ROCKIN’!!  And, of course, what could finish that evening off better than brats on the grill and German potato salad??? We’ll be back next year!!!

The next morning, we were musically treated again as another church close to us hosted the Garms family. This talented Christian family of 8 travels from city to city around the country spreading the Gospel, relating personal testimonials and delivering engaging renditions of well-known gospel songs as well as introducing their audiences to beautiful compositions of their own. This was the first time we’ve seen this family perform and they were ABSOLUTELY FABULOUS!  The entire congregation was totally captivated by their energy and presence; it is obvious they love the Lord!! I think they preform mostly in churches but for more clarification on them or to check their performance schedule, click HERE. Just a word: If this family comes close to where you live, don’t pass up the opportunity to be part of their audience!! I guarantee you’ll come away from their performance uplifted and FULL of His spirit!!!

Rejoice in His Goodness!!

 


 

A couple of folks shared some nice thoughts:

‘This group of ordered crosses will go to our Family Camp Retreat attendees.  We meet in CA this year and are a group of about 75 Christians who come together once a year to praise, refresh and renew.  The Spanish crosses will travel with a small group from our church, New Song Lutheran, to Ensenada, Mexico to a school and orphanage named Lantern Hill.’ 

Thank you for your ministry – Sheila

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‘I really appreciate what you, Ernie, and all who volunteer are doing to reach people around the world with the love of Jesus. Seeing God’s hand in all of this is a beautiful example to me of His great love, and personally brings encouragement as He places things on my heart today in which to share through writing. What He has orchestrated through Cross the World is a reminder to me that He truly does work “all things together for good”. Thank you again for your labor of love. I look forward to meeting you one day.’ 

Many Blessings, Holly – TX

 

JoAn’s note:  Holly is the author of the message tag that accompanies each of our crosses and we were so happy to find her!  Her mother, Nancy, wrote a testimonial about our relationship, which we featured March, 2017.  To view it, click HERE.

 


 

We are always thankful for everyone who makes up the Cross The World family and who ‘walk’ the cross to others so they, too, can enjoy the experience of God’s love.  You are all a blessing to us!  This month, these folks took up the cross for others:

Don – MN

Restoration Books and Gifts – Crosby, MN

Hopewell Methodist Church – Rayland, OH

Luverne – MN

Carla – MN

Crossing Home – Minneapolis, MN

Nancy – MO

Community Lutheran Church – Bullhead City, AZ

Sheila – NV

Faith Works – El Paso, TX

United Methodist Church – Willmar, MN

Hilltop Chapel – Palisade, MN

 


 

In addition to Flag Day (June 14th) and the beginning of summer (June 21st), this month is the month we celebrate our AWESOME, MUCH LOVED FATHERS!

Prayer is a simple gift you can offer anytime, anywhere for ALL the dads in your life.  Spend a little time on Father’s Day thanking God for the blessing of their presence.  Pray for their strength and guidance. Ask Him for the ability to see and celebrate the good in them, offer them grace in their brokenness, and encouragement for the daily journey.  And remember the greatest DAD of all  … God’s fatherhood is an extraordinary gift to us. As we honor our earthly fathers in a couple of weeks, let’s celebrate even more that we are in God’s family and children of a perfect father.